Your stomach drops. You just hit “send” on the wrong email. Or you spot a big data error in a report that already went to the client. Or you realize you have a missed deadline on something that mattered.
Your heart is pounding. Your mind is racing. How bad is this? Will I get fired?
If you’ve made a mistake at work, take a breath. You’re going to be okay.
Everyone makes mistakes. What matters most is what you do next. This guide shows you how to stay calm after a mistake, how to fix a mistake the right way, and how to move on without beating yourself up.
First: Everyone Makes Mistakes
It might feel like you’re the only one who has ever messed up this badly. You’re not.
Mistakes at work are part of being human. Even the most skilled people make them. Doctors, pilots, CEOs, and even the Navy SEALs train for errors because they know mistakes will happen.
In fact, owning a mistake well can actually help how others see you.
The Pratfall Effect
In 1966, psychologist Elliot Aronson ran a study at the University of Minnesota. People listened to recordings of a quiz show contestant. When a highly skilled contestant spilled a cup of coffee, people actually liked him more (Pratfall effect).
This is called the pratfall effect. When competent people make small, human mistakes, they can seem more relatable. It doesn’t mean mistakes are good. But it does show that one slip doesn’t erase your credibility or likability.
Why Mistakes Feel So Scary
When you realize you’ve made a mistake, your brain may treat it like danger. A part of your brain called the amygdala sets off your stress response, also called fight or flight. Your body releases adrenaline and cortisol. Your nervous system goes on high alert.
That’s why you might feel:
- A racing heart
- A stomach drop
- Panic or anxiety
- Shame, guilt, or embarrassment
- A strong fear of getting fired
Here’s the problem. When stress takes over, the thinking part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex, has a harder time working well. That’s why it’s so important to calm down before you act.
Your brain is also wired to focus on the bad. Psychologist Roy Baumeister and his team showed that negative events tend to affect us more strongly than positive ones (Baumeister et al., 2001). This negativity bias is why one mistake can feel bigger than a year of good work.
Step 1: Pause and Calm Down
Before you do anything, pause. Don’t fire off a panicked reply or try to hide the mistake.
Take a slow, deep breath. Then try one minute of box breathing:
- Breathe in for 4 seconds.
- Hold for 4 seconds.
- Breathe out for 4 seconds.
- Hold for 4 seconds.
These breathing exercises help you calm down so you can think clearly. See our box breathing guide.
You can also try a quick grounding exercise. Press your feet into the floor and name three things you can see. This pulls you out of panic and back into the present.
Step 2: Assess the Damage
Once you feel a bit calmer, assess the damage. Ask yourself:
- What exactly went wrong?
- Who is affected?
- How big is the mistake?
- Can it be fixed quickly?
- What happens if it isn’t fixed?
Small Mistake or Big Mistake?
Most mistakes are smaller than they feel.
A small mistake might be a typo in an internal note or a reply all to the wrong thread. These are often quick to fix.
A big mistake might be a budget mistake, a client mistake, or a serious error that costs money or time. These need fast action and honesty.
Either way, an honest mistake is something you can recover from.
Can You Undo It?
Some mistakes can be fixed in seconds. If you sent the wrong email, check if you can recall it in Outlook or use undo send in Gmail. If you made a mistake in Excel, check the version history.
Step 3: Own Your Mistake
It’s tempting to hide a mistake or hope no one notices. Don’t.
Own your mistake. Admit a mistake as soon as you can. Take responsibility without making excuses.
Why? Because mistakes almost always come out. And when they do, the cover-up is often worse than the original error. Accountability builds trust. Hiding things destroys it.
Step 4: Tell Your Boss (With a Plan)
Yes, you should tell your boss. It’s scary, but it’s almost always the right move. Report the mistake before someone else does.
How to Tell Your Manager
When you tell your manager, keep it short and clear:
- What happened. “I sent the client the old version of the report.”
- The impact. “They may have seen outdated numbers.”
- What you’ve done so far. “I’ve already sent the correct version.”
- Your plan. “I’d like to call them today to explain. Does that work?”
Coming with a solution shows maturity. Your manager, supervisor, or boss will likely care more about how you handle it than the mistake itself.
Be honest about what happened. Transparency helps your team fix the problem fast.
Should You Tell Your Boss in Person?
For big mistakes, talk in person or on a call if you can. For small ones, a quick email or Slack message may be fine. Follow up in writing so there’s a written record.
Step 5: Apologize the Right Way
A sincere apology goes a long way. But keep it simple.
A good apology:
- Names the mistake: “I made an error in the numbers.”
- Takes ownership: “That’s on me.”
- Focuses on the fix: “Here’s what I’m doing to correct it.”
Avoid making excuses or blaming others. Also try not to over-apologize. Saying sorry ten times can make the mistake seem bigger and shift attention away from the solution.
If clients or customers were affected, apologize to them too, in a calm and professional way.
Step 6: Fix It Fast
Now, fix it fast. Make an action plan with clear next steps.
- What needs to happen right now?
- Who needs to be involved?
- How will you know it’s fixed?
This is damage control, but it’s also a chance to show your strengths. A fast, calm response can actually build your reputation.
Document what happened and what you did. Follow up with anyone affected to make sure everything is resolved.
Step 7: Prevent It From Happening Again
Once the problem is fixed, think about how to prevent it from happening again.
Ask yourself: Was this a one-time slip, or is there a weak spot in the process?
Ideas that help:
- Create a checklist for important tasks.
- Double-check key numbers and names before sending.
- Build a simple system, like a review step for big reports.
- Ask a coworker to review high-stakes work.
Share your lessons learned with your manager. This shows you’re focused on growth, not just damage control.
Step 8: Forgive Yourself and Move On
This is often the hardest step.
After a mistake, many people fall into rumination. They keep replaying the moment. Overthinking turns into a spiral. Some people start catastrophizing: “I’ll get fired. I’ll never get another job.”
Here’s how to break the cycle.
Practice Self-Compassion
You might think being hard on yourself will help you do better. Research says the opposite.
In a 2012 study, Juliana Breines and Serena Chen of the University of California, Berkeley found that people who treated themselves with self-compassion after a failure were more motivated to improve. In one experiment, people who were kind to themselves after failing a test studied longer for the next one (Breines and Chen, 2012). The study was published in Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin.
Self-criticism tends to make you feel worse. Self-compassion helps you learn and grow. Researcher Kristin Neff has spent years studying how self-compassion helps people bounce back from setbacks.
Swap Negative Self-Talk for Kinder Words
Notice your negative self-talk: “I’m so stupid. I always mess things up.”
Then try positive self-talk instead: “I made a mistake. I’m fixing it. I’ll learn from this.”
This helps you reframe the situation and gain perspective.
Remember the Spotlight Effect
You’ll probably think about this mistake far more than anyone else will. Psychologist Thomas Gilovich of Cornell University calls this the spotlight effect: we overestimate how much others notice our slip-ups (Gilovich et al., 2000).
Use a Growth Mindset
Psychologist Carol Dweck of Stanford University popularized the idea of a growth mindset. With a growth mindset, mistakes become chances to learn from mistakes rather than proof that you’re not good enough.
Give It a Time Limit
Allow yourself to feel bad for a set time. Maybe until the end of the day. Then let it go and move on. Tomorrow is a fresh start, whether it’s a Monday or a Friday.
Forgive yourself. You’re human.
Rebuild Trust After a Mistake
If your mistake affected others, you may need to rebuild trust. Here’s how:
- Be consistent. Do what you say you’ll do.
- Deliver good work. Let your next projects speak for you.
- Communicate more. Share updates often for a while.
- Ask for feedback. Show you want to grow.
Trust comes back faster than you think when people see you’ve learned.
Will I Get Fired for a Mistake?
This is the biggest fear for most people. The honest answer: usually not.
Most employers know mistakes happen. Getting fired over a single honest mistake is rare, especially when you own it and fix it quickly. Repeated mistakes, dishonesty, or hiding errors are much bigger risks to your job security.
If you’re worried, talk to your manager or human resources (HR). Ask what you can do to make things right.
The Role of Workplace Culture
How you feel about mistakes also depends on where you work.
Learning Culture vs Blame Culture
In a learning culture, mistakes are treated as chances to improve. In a blame culture, people are punished for errors, so they hide them.
Amy Edmondson of Harvard Business School coined the term psychological safety. It means people feel safe to speak up, ask questions, and admit mistakes without fear of punishment.
Google studied 180 of its teams in a research effort called Project Aristotle. It found that psychological safety was the most important factor in what made teams work well (Mindset Online).
If you lead a team, you can help by responding calmly when someone admits a mistake. Thank them for speaking up. Focus on the fix, not the blame.
Get Support
You don’t have to deal with this alone. Talk to a trusted mentor or friendly coworkers. Many people have made similar mistakes and can offer support and perspective.
If you have perfectionism or imposter syndrome, a mistake can hit especially hard. Read imposter syndrome at work and perfectionism at work.
When to Get Professional Help
It’s normal to feel upset after a mistake. But if you can’t stop replaying it for weeks, or if fear of mistakes is affecting your sleep or health, consider talking to a therapist.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help with rumination and anxiety. Many workplaces also offer free counseling through an Employee Assistance Program (EAP). The American Psychological Association and the Mayo Clinic both offer helpful guidance on managing stress and anxiety (American Psychological Association; Mayo Clinic). Support is available across the United States.
Quick Checklist: What to Do After a Mistake at Work
- Pause and take a deep breath.
- Assess what happened and how big it is.
- Own it. Don’t hide it.
- Tell your boss with a plan.
- Apologize simply and sincerely.
- Fix it fast with clear next steps.
- Prevent it with a checklist or new process.
- Forgive yourself and move on.
The Bottom Line
Making a mistake at work feels awful in the moment. But it’s not the end of the world, and it’s almost never the end of your career.
What to do after a mistake at work is simple, even if it’s not easy: pause, own it, tell your boss, fix it, and learn from it. Then be kind to yourself and move on.
Handled well, a mistake can show your honesty, resilience, and problem-solving skills. That’s something any good team values.
These coping strategies help with other kinds of work stress and anxiety at work, too. For more, read how to stay calm when criticized at work and our complete guide to workplace stress.
Frequently Asked Questions
What should I do right after making a mistake at work? Pause and take a few deep breaths. Then figure out what happened and how big it is. Next, tell your manager and share your plan to fix it.
Should I tell my boss about a mistake? Yes, in almost all cases. It’s better for your boss to hear it from you, with a plan, than from someone else.
How do I stop thinking about a mistake I made at work? Fix what you can, write down what you learned, and practice self-compassion. Set a time limit for feeling bad, then shift your focus to something else.
Can you get fired for one mistake? It’s rare for one honest mistake, especially if you own it and fix it fast. Hiding mistakes or repeating them is a bigger risk.
How do I apologize for a mistake at work? Name the mistake, take ownership, and focus on the fix. Keep it short. Avoid excuses and don’t over-apologize.
Sources
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- Baumeister, R. F., Bratslavsky, E., Finkenauer, C., & Vohs, K. D. (2001). Bad is stronger than good. Review of General Psychology, 5(4), 323-370. https://doi.org/10.1037/1089-2680.5.4.323
- Breines, J. G., & Chen, S. (2012). Self-compassion increases self-improvement motivation. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 38(9), 1133-1143. https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/0146167212445599
- Gilovich, T., Medvec, V. H., & Savitsky, K. (2000). The spotlight effect in social judgment. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(2), 211-222. https://doi.org/10.1037/0022-3514.78.2.211
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- Mindset Online. Google spent two years studying 180 teams and the single biggest predictor of high performance surprised everyone (on Project Aristotle). https://mindsetonline.com/google-project-aristotle-180-teams-psychological-safety/
- Pratfall effect. Wikipedia overview of Aronson, Willerman, & Floyd (1966). https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pratfall_effect
